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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm sorry you had a bad experience.  But ultimately you are responsible for your own safety.  You are way too passive.  Men are not going to ride to your rescue.  There may not be men available to do so in every circumstance either.  You need to practice speaking in a good firm voice and saying "LEAVE ME ALONE"..."GET AWAY FROM MY CHILD"..."BACK OFF NOW."  And other assertive, positive statements.

It is up to you to protect your child in all situations.  Teenage employees who may or may not speak English are not going to do it for you.  And why should they, really?  Why should they put their lives on the line for you?[/quote]

This is sorta what I was thinking too OP (minus the non-english speaking employee part).
I don't know...I grew up outside of Philly and my single mom taught me early on to be ASSERTIVE about my own safety.
In hindsight, you should have been loud and clear -- "LEAVE ME ALONE" and if that did not work, call the cops yourself or ask someone else to cal them.
If you were shocked and a bit at a loss as to what to do ...maybe the employees were as well.
In the absence of an actual physical assault, it seems a bit off that you would FULLY EXPECT the employees to say something when you were not SAYING ANYTHING YOURSELF.
I understand that it would have been nice if they spoke up...but you did not speak up either.
From now on, you need to role-play in your mind how to handle these situations...what you would do and say.
It sounds silly, but is helpful.
This way you do not have to figure it out in the moment...it just comes back to you.
Read "The Gift of Fear".
Your discomfort and reluctance  to be firm and assertive(understandable tho it may have been) was likely to do more harm and egg the guy on than the lack of interference from the staff.
Sorry this happened to you.[/quote]

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