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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband and son are on the spectrum, and this is why they don't have close friends, and what friends they have, they are content to see them rarely.

But neurotypical men? All my friends' husbands have lots of friends and see them pretty often, except the ones far away.

Draw the correct conclusion, OP.[/quote]

Why did you marry someone on the spectrum?

I’m curious as to why any woman would choose to do this. Is he really wealthy? Or did you think your own chances of finding a quality husband were too low?

I just can’t fathom why any woman would do this, except for maybe they’re overweight or unattractive or had no better prospects.

How did this happen? [/quote]

DP wondering what you think being on the spectrum means. Often these individuals have greater empathy than neurotypicals. They are often more honest. They have great feeling, they just show it differently.

I say this with respect and good intention: you might benefit from meet more neurodivergent people. [/quote]

Blurting out your personal opinion, based only on your own experiences, is not “honesty” nor “empathy.”

Honesty is telling the truth or fact about something, layered with judgement on how to say it and when or not at all.

Empathy is the ability to hold two or more different views on a subject and understand they are different and how, and then act accordingly. So assuming XYZ about someone when you see ABC happen, and you try to understand why, even if you disagree or would have handled it totally differently. You seek understanding of them. Then act and talk accordingly. 
It is not being emotional or sympathizing. Lots of people have formulaic reasons for behaving sad, when they think the socially acceptable thing to do is act very sad. [/quote]

PP, gently repeating that you might benefit from getting to know more neurodivergent people. There’s room for you to be surprised.

Have a good one. [/quote]

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