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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents are in their early 90s and refuse to agree to live anywhere but their home. They also refuse to use a walker (despite my dad falling after getting out of a cab and breaking his jaw). My mom is dead set that they can handle things alone. Any time on of us kids intervene, it is met with angry outbursts
Unless they have been declared incompetent, you have no say really. 
I talk about this with my siblings all the time - we will just have to wait for something catastrophic to happen before things change. [/quote]

This is the bottom line.  They are choosing freedom over safety.  He gets to have his boundaries unless his choices are putting someone else's life in danger.  It doesn't sound like you are dropping everything and flying to him when he falls, so that's a good boundary for you.  Aging is sad and there's no perfect path to the end.  Western medicine is very focused on "safety" mostly so they don't get sued.  But the reality is that a shorter, freer life might be a great choice for your dad as long as he's doing no harm.  You have done what you can, so worrying is senseless.  When there's a catastrophy, you will handle it.[/quote]

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