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[quote=Anonymous]"L’s parents were kind of unorganized, so I took it upon myself to help L get involved in soccer, gymnastics, etc with my daughter". Were they unorganized, or were they uninterested and neglectful? Go all the way to the potential truth here. I remember my (now young adult) children having friends in grade school who suddenly cut them off, unfriended them abruptly, as if my child were no longer good enough to be friends with -- only later to see that girl's parents divorce acrimoniously. In a few cases, it became very clear to me while a girl and my daughter were still friends how that girl's parents were largely checked out on this kid's life. What happened is the girl began acting out in strange ways, maybe becoming more manipulative and mean toward my daughter before cutting her off in spectacular fashion. When kids don't feel noticed or in control inside their own home, they can act out on a close friend almost as a place to put the anger and frustration they're feeling inside. I saw it happen more than once with both my daughters where a girl friend in grade school treated them increasingly badly, cut them off, etc. only to find out later the parents were divorcing. In the most egregious case of treating my daughter badly, the mom up and left the family, just walked away and never came back. All of the sudden, it made sense to me why her daughter was being so mean to my daughter. So there might be home-based reasons for kids acting out like this, too.[/quote]

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