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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op - she would never move into senior community. Is complete introvert. Best I could probably do is arrange for live in carer to be her friend [/quote]

I wouldn't give her a choice.  You say, this is the thing I'm willing to help you with (ie find and move into a senior living community).  If she doesn't went to, she can arrange her own help at home, or she will go when there's an emergency and she won't have a say in the matter.  I doubt you have time to manage at-home care (it's not like a one-and-done thing) so you should only offer what you have the the capacity (and desire) to deal with.  This isn't a knock on you, btw- this is exactly what I plan to do with my own difficult parent eventually.[/quote]

NP. She'll just say no and OP will be back at square one. My mother was like this. We found a part-time companion through Nextdoor who would take her on errands and appointments and help with household tasks. It became full-time as my mother's abilities declined. [/quote]

Not really- you just say "good luck to you."  That's what my siblings and I are going to do with my mom.  Eventually she won't have a choice and we will move her.  But we won't manage care for her in her home bc she has a lot of interpersonal problems and health issues, and we can't take that on.[/quote]

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