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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm not the poster you're talking about, but did play the long game with my custody file. I took them back every single time he didn't want them anymore. This was extremely inconvenient sometimes, but it wasn't my kid's fault that their dad couldn't deal. Often he'd bring one home at 9pm, the other would say they'd want to stay but then at 10pm the other one would be getting dropped off, too.

The kids were brought back to me:
- if they were in bad moods
- if he was in a bad mood
- if they had a cold and he wanted to go do something
- if they needed help
- if he wanted to see his married neighbor
- if they were talking too much
- if they weren't getting along
- if he had a bad day
- if they were hungry

He had hardly any time to begin with. I documented on a calendar page printout for each month, and when it came down to it, he barely actually had them. He didn't want to be a parent so he wasn't given parenting time. He wanted to have them, but they were little and they needed a parent. He did want custody, but honestly I think a lot of that was about the girlfriend.

His temper led to other abuse going on and his behavior and history of behavior caught up with him. He got supervised visits for a while until neither kid wanted to go to those because they were rough - the supervisor had to keep telling him to stop doing xyz.

Then, he wanted 50/50 parenting but we were way past that being any realm of possibility because by that point, he hadn't seen them in a long long time. He was given a list of things he could do if he wanted to resume contact (such as treatment for alcohol addiction, anger management, understanding age appropriate expectations for behavior, that the kids can't be blamed for his behavior, etc). He chose not to do any of it and that was it. [/quote]

Op is t saying that’s the situation.   They want specific ways to set up dad to fail to prevent him for seeing the kids.   I.e. don’t answer dad’s calls, text or emails then claim no contact.   Refuse visits then say he doesn’t see the kids.   Have the kids make up stories of abuse and neglect - tell them they story enough times or bribe the, to believe it and repeat it.  Have the kids refuse to go with dad by bribing them.  [/quote]

Let me guess, your wife turned the kids against you and you have no idea why.[/quote]

I know why.  Her affair. [/quote]

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