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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If I was able to attend my top choice, I never would have met the girl across the hall from me in the dorms at the university we both attended.

We are married and have two kids.[/quote]

DP here and I needed to hear this - things do happen for a reason and I think most kids are happy where they end up.[/quote]

Yes - this has been our experience, as well. There are a million success stories out there - it does work out well in the end!

But this initial disappointment is real and can be very powerful. It's is an emotional process, as well as a logical/rational one. And it's just the first part of this post-acceptance/rejection phase. It will get easier.

We've seen so many of our friends' kids' feeling crushed at the end of March, followed by an exhausting April (multiple Admitted Students Day visits), followed by a choice that blooms into happiness and even gratitude over time. As in, "I can't believe I wanted to go to X and Y. That would have sucked because I would have missed out on . . . . "

One fun story - We have a family friend (recently graduated from college) who applied ED to a particular school because it had the exact niche program he wanted. He had all the top stats and ECs to match, but was deferred and then rejected. Got into a different highly ranked school that was great in many ways but didn't offer his niche program . . . except, unbeknownst to him, it was starting that up in the fall in an innovative and cool way. So off he went - disappointed and a bit skeptical - and it far surpassed his expectations (and in a way the ED school never could have for structural reasons.) 
 
Kids tend to bloom where they're planted. It doesn't make it easy right now, or even over the summer. Hang in there, validate her emotions (of course she's disappointed right now), and stay steady on her behalf, knowing she'll find her spot and will write her next chapter there.

In a phrase: Keep the faith![/quote]

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