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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just wouldn't. And I say that as someone with a kid in DCPS who is doing fine.

But if I had to do it again, I'd have pushed my spouse MUCH harder to move out of DC before our our kid was old enough that it would be hard to do. It's not even that I think schools are so much better elsewhere, it's more that I think DC's public school system is highly dysfunctional and stressful to navigate, and I think I personally would prefer to parent in a district where you just live in the best pyramid you can and then make do. That has it's drawbacks too, but I think I'm better suited to them.[/quote]

Do you mean another district in the DMV or leave the area entirely?

What dysfunctions stand out? [/quote]

The demographics of DC combined with the government culture and the lottery create very dysfunctional public school systems. Everyone works at cross purposes. Schools, parents, administrators, teachers, and the district. Plus charters. The lottery is great on a micro level (can help families get access to better schools) but toxic on a macro level (creates a sense of instability in the system and schools, creates a lot of churn, disincentivizes people to have a "make it work" attitude even with more minor challenges).

I think some people have no issues with this and navigate it well. I find it stressful and unsettling. My kid is in middle elementary and we are now figuring out middle school. I thought nothing could ever be as stressful and annoying as PK lotteries. I was incorrect. Stakes are much higher for MS and there are simply not enough spots at decent schools to go around. There's this weird intensity among parents, especially where I am (Capital Hill) but this is countered by an almost apathetic or aggressively neutral attitude among schools, likely just as a self-protective measure because some of the parents are so intense. I simply cannot have another conversation about math tracking. I'm tired of all of it.

I think I'd find a lot of this in the burbs as well which is why I'd rather leave the area altogether, but I think I personally am better suited to deal with the way suburban districts handle these issues better than I deal with DC public schools.[/quote]

I could have written this post myself and also live in Capitol Hill. The DCPS middles that the Hill elementary schools feed into are inconsistent and are all (I believe) Title I schools. Some have increasing neighborhood buy in and we will be sending our DS to one next year that we are hopeful about, but many of DS's friends left last year for Latin or BASIS and that was hard on him. Looming on the horizon is the high school question, so we have to throw our hats in the ring with the lottery again, and also will have to apply our kid to private high school as a backstop. The people whose kids "win" the high school or charter lottery are literally winning a thing of significant value: not having to pay for four years of private or parochial high school or not having to move and face all of the financial costs (buying/selling home) and social/emotional costs (uprooting your kids, trying to make new adult friends) etc. And not having to worry about the uncertainty and not knowing where your kid is going to school next. Same with the burbs in a decent pyramid.

You've articulated very well the neutral or indifferent attitude about math tracking and other issues in schools. I wish so badly that DCPS would track kids better, including in subjects other than math. More UMC families with strong students would consider staying. But there have been entire years where it felt like my kid was teaching himself math because he started out the year above grade level and so nobody was worried about him. I feel like we've been gaslighted when we push back or ask questions about what he's up to.

If I had to go back and do it again, I would have at least moved to NW DC into a Deal feeder (or Arlington) before my kids were old enough for switching schools to matter, and before we felt so settled in this community. We love the Hill and don't want to leave but the stress of this crazy school situation takes a toll. I am exhausted. [/quote]

As a PK parent and longtime-ish CH resident, I am trying to avoid some of this anxiety for however long I can but now that we're enrolled into the school journey, I know it's coming for me. We, too, love this community in many ways. But the school chatter ... damn[/quote]

The school chatter is easy to ignore. Just know that most of what is said in the chatter is flat out wrong anyway. Research and choose schools on your own -- it doesn't matter what your neighbor, etc., is doing.[/quote]

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