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[quote=Anonymous]This is an honest answer, so sorry if it seems harsh!  I don't think your married 30s are meant to be a time where your social life blossoms with new people.  Your 30s are meant to be a time where you invest your time, energy, and money in your existing connections, and in creating your new family.  You spend your time with your spouse, your kids, taking on new responsibility at your job, strengthening your connections to your family (and meeting new family obligations as your parents/grandparents age), and hopefully, staying in touch with your old friends.

If you want to have a more vibrant social life, then I really don't think there is any solution other than moving to a more dense area so you'll have more social encounters, and you'll be around more childless/single people with more time to devote to socializing.  You still may not find any new best friends -- it's not college -- but you will develop acquaintances.  And once you have kids, you'll start doing playdates, running into other moms at the park, etc.

In short -- the reason you aren't making friends is because this is not really the time of life when people spend a lot of energy & time on totally new connections -- unless you surround yourself with people who DO have the energy & time to do so -- i.e., move to a city.
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