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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly, it feels really good. I don’t feel like I’m walking on eggshells trying to figure out the right thing to say to someone who hates the way I breathe. It feels good to tell a joke and have someone almost spit on themselves laughing rather than getting a lecture. I can drive places without constant directions on everything, how I’m driving, the parking spot I just missed, etc.  I feel like a human.

My time with the kids has been amazing. We have 50/50 and on my weeks we can do all kinds of stuff. Whether its sitting down to study, playing a game together - there’s no yelling anymore - there’s mostly just calm.

Aside from that dating has been fun and I’ve met some great people. Sex has been amazing and I think I’d forgotten what it felt like to actually be wanted and to want someone else.

I viewed my divorce as a failure before and that really got to me but the farther I get away from her I realize there was no chance of success with her. What was inside her burned a scowl onto her face that nothing I could do would fix.[/quote]
I feel like you could be my DH in a few years.

Have you unpacked your relationship yet? Why do you think she held such contempt for you? I hope you figure this out before you enter another relationship. “What was inside her” was years and years of neglect of your relationship and probably years ignoring her trying to communicate to you about it. Did you communicate to her what was wrong? Or you just thought her “bad attitude” was the entire problem in the marriage and you were happy as long as that changed? [/quote]

He doesn’t care that he was an unreliable, opting out husband and father when married. He still is though, and he still cuts corners and avoids the heavy real stuff. [/quote]

LOL it sounds like his ex-wife was the problem, pp. I'm not sure what you're projecting but it's pretty clear you lack basic reading comprehension skills.[/quote]
DP. Very rarely is it one persons problem a relationship fails. Presumably she wasn’t like that that married and a normal person would want to know what changed. Doesn’t mean that she wasn’t wrong to take that approach but life is constantly presenting opportunities to grow if we take them. [/quote]

Simple time and familiarity is enough for many spouses to develop a strong distaste for the other spouse. No need to automatically assume unreliability or other bad qualities. [/quote]

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