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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I believe this is something our misogynistic society has forced everyone to believe. In my life, 50% of my bosses were male and 50% female. My female bosses were excellent, supportive mentors who went to bat for me daily. My male bosses found “playful” was to denigrate me, ignore achievements, be unconcerned with my development. My female friends are all great, my male friends turns out all just wanted to f me. 
Enough of this trope. Patriarchy is dying, let’s let the false and hateful narratives die with it. [/quote]

Counterpoint: I've mostly worked for women and I'd say 80% of them have engaged in cruel, harmful behavior towards other women in the office. I've seen multiple female bosses show clear favoritism towards men on staff over women. The women I've worked for have been much more prone to gossiping in the workplace, and to using relational aggression (what some people call "mean girl" behavior) to control others, instead of direct communication.

I have some good female friends but I've definitely encountered meanness in female friendships, including once being totally ostracized by a group of women because one of them decided she didn't like me and everyone deferred to her.

When I was in my 20s and was raped by an ex-boyfriend, my female friends were not very supportive and were quickest to question whether it had really been rape ("I mean, you've had sex before" or "you knew what he was like, it's kind of on you for agreeing to be alone with him"). They also chose to remain friends with him even though that meant drifting away from me because after that I chose to avoid any situation where I would have to see him. But I had two male friends at the time who were the biggest support I had through that experience, and never second guessed me or blamed me for what happened. They also stopped being friend with my ex. And these friends never tried to sleep with me -- they are still friends of mine and have never been anything but gentlemen towards me. One is married and I' close friends with his wife. My husband is friends with them both. There are plenty of good men out there.

I think patriarchy is alive and well, and that one of the ways it operates is through women, who will sometimes treat each other poorly in order to elevate themselves. I think that's the main reason women mistreat each other -- to serve men. It is a very specific form of betrayal. But women have internalized misogyny just like men have and if you believe power lies with men, not women, then it is very easy for you to justify betraying women in order to be close to what you view as the "real" source of power -- men.[/quote]

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