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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is controversial but it worked for us. My kid loved the classes at school, but not the practice. We encouraged but did not force the practice. Sometimes it happened and sometimes it didn’t.

When they got to middle school and started playing every day in class they got better and asked for private lessons. We obliged and yes continued them even when practice was sporadic. They have now played the instrument years and loves it. Has been in audition level honors ensembles and talks about maybe playing in college. Their music is a huge part of their life.

Music is SO good for kid’s brains, it seems silly to force them to quit lessons if they don’t play at home. The purpose of these activities is to learn something, but also to enjoy it! I say lay off on the practice requirements and let them enjoy their instrument—remind them regularly that practice will help them improve but don’t lose your mind if they don’t do it.

Again it’s not a popular opinion, but it worked for us and it might work for you. 
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OP here. I'm considering just letting her continue her music lessons without practicing. The issue is, her teacher will tell me how she did after each lesson, remind me that DD needs to have certain pieces memorized for recitals, suggest to me that DD should practice 20 minutes a day 3 times a week, and have us mark off each time a piece was practiced. Therefore, I feel responsible for ensuring the practicing gets done. DD is in elementary school so each practice session requires constant micromanaging from me the entire time. Which wouldn't be a big deal if she didn't have PDA (pathological demand avoidance), so most of the practice time is spent on us arguing about her just starting to do anything. Maybe I'll have a chat with her music teacher and let her know I'm going to stop forcing DD to practice.

Also, how do you expose your kid to many different activities when you have multiple kids? DD and her sibling are in different age groups for now, and thus can't be enrolled in the same things.[/quote]

I think with what you have to deal with for practicing, it’s just too much. I would drop it because you’re going to need all that energy when the school works starts to pick up and more homework. It’s brutal. And my daughter is only in 5th grade. [/quote]

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