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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can’t thread this gracefully. You think your son worked harder and she’s ridiculous and you don’t want to stick your neck out the tiniest bit for her.

Sounds exactly like the politics-based baseball leagues in DC with overlord parents you *thought* were friends and liked your kids. [/quote]

I don’t read OP as saying her child “worked harder” or that her friend is ridiculous. She’s describing a very common situation: one kid makes a small, competitive HS team and another kid, whose family has been through real trauma, gets cut. Both things can be true at once.

It’s also not “refusing to stick her neck out” to acknowledge that she has no relationship with the coach and no influence in the program whatsoever. For many people, inserting themselves into that would feel inappropriate and could create more drama for both families.

You can have deep empathy for what that family has endured and be incredible friends while still recognizing that school teams can’t be structured around individual circumstances. A more helpful focus is on supporting the cut kid in finding another way to stay connected to the sport (manager, rec league, etc.), rather than framing this as a friendship loyalty test.[/quote]

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