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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I actually think I would like my sisters more if I WASN'T their sister. As casual friends they are ok. It's the family/sibling dynamics that mess things up[/quote]

There is something to this. I don't dislike my siblings but we don't really have relationships. We barely see each other and are not really in each other's lives. We grew up in a screwed up home and have all dealt with the trauma of that in our own ways. It's easier to avoid each other than to try and negotiate all that shared trauma and dysfunction.

For instance my older sister was definitely parentified by my parents, and I know that was awful for her. But as a result she both (1) tries to order me around even though I'm an adult and don't want or need that, and (2) resents me for the ways our parents forced her to take care of me when we were young, which I understand, but was not my fault and actually led to me being neglected because my sister wasn't qualified to care for me. So I don't like being around her. But if she wasn't my sibling we wouldn't have those dynamics and I think it's possible we'd have complementary personalities.

But we are siblings.[/quote]

Interesting. I was parentified by single mother and my siblings are the resentful ones. Though they were neglected too because I was nine and we scavenged dinner. Though I don’t order them around. Everyone still comes to me to do everything, which bugs me to no end, and I’ve only just started to break the habit (and now they’re pissed).

But, my answer is no, we wouldn’t be friends. Not alike in any way and already estranged from one. [/quote]

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