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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How often does he travel? Every month? Is he taking advantage of his sniffles? Is he still working thru the man cold?[/quote]

OP - he travels every month or so.  At the minimum every quarter.  I try and have empathy but its hard because stuff still needs to get done and then I have to do it all.  I power through when I have a migraine or any sickness that isn't completely debilitating.  Its what parents do when they have young kids who can't function on their own. [/quote]

How old are your kids and what exactly is it that you need to do when he’s sick that he’s not helping with?[/quote]

Op - kids are 11 and under. Elementary school age.

Need to get kids up, fed breakfast, lunches made, drive to school, walk dog, I work full time from home, pick up kids from school, supervise homework, make dinner, drive kids to sports practices, make sure laundry is done, give baths to younger kids, get kids ready for bed, put to bed, clean up house before I can finally go to sleep. [/quote]

I also have kids the same ages and two dogs and I work from home in a pretty demanding job. Here are some thoughts:

- Why are you driving your kids to and from school? Mine are in private but there's a bus. It's worth every single penny because of the amount of time saved in carpool line. Seriously, that is a huge time suck.

- Get a dog walker or find a daycare that your husband can drop the dog off at a few times a week (I assume he goes into the office at least a few days?). I enjoy walking my dogs sometimes but it's also been nice to have a dog walker when I'm really busy.

- Why are you making your kids lunches? I don't know how young the youngest one is but ours have always eaten school lunch and if they want something else, they can make it.

- Supervising homework at those ages is not that difficult? My oldest is 11 so I feel like I know what kind of work they do all the way through elementary and the start of middle but maybe your kids are different.

- Consider hiring a nanny for driving to sports stuff, which is what we did. She's a college student and doesn't have classes in the afternoons so she takes them a few times a week. We pay her hourly (including time spent in carpool) plus mileage and we pay for her dinner.

- Lower your standards on cleaning the house as needed. Given that I work from home, I'll often jump up and do something quickly if I have calls that end early or I finish eating lunch quickly. It helps a lot with the overall big picture. Also, and this should be obvious, but you should have weekly cleaners.

I'm not unsympathetic to your plight, but I do think there are some ways you could make your life easier given your husband's situation with travel and illness.[/quote]

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