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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Like likes like. In this case weak likes weak. They are perfect for each other and will be perfectly miserable together with others joining along the way.[/quote]

I don't think he's being weak. It sounds like his m.o. is to fail to disclose things until he feels his partner is attached enough to accept them even if it's not what they want. So he didn't disclose his preference for non-monogamy when they started dating, but then told her after she was pretty sure she wanted to marry him so he could later claim she "agreed" since she didn't marry him (while also saying she wanted to be monogamous). And then he started dating someone else, again without telling her (even though usually in polyamory, there are rules around disclosure, but since Lindy had not at that point agreed to open the marriage, there were no rules in place) and then by the time she learns of it, it's a more serious relationship and now Lindy has to decide whether to deal with it or divorce.

He sounds manipulative AF and it sounds like she's convincing herself it's fine because she's afraid of being alone.

It's really sad, but he doesn't sound miserable. Lindy sounds miserable and the GF sound like she will one day be like "wtf am I doing" but is currently high on having been "picked" by a married man AND his famous writer wife.[/quote]

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