Reply to How to deal with loss of confidence at U11

Forum Index » Soccer

Reply to "How to deal with loss of confidence at U11"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry OP. It's tough to watch your kid go through the ups and downs. I'm sure there are lots of factors but ultimately your kid needs your unconditional love and support right now. He needs to know that you will love him no matter how he performs in soccer and that you'll be there for him.

I will say, as a mental health professional, I am really struggling listening to a few of the parents (mostly Dads) at U8 practices. Most parents are great but there are a few that really stand out at our club. It's a constant barrage of criticism, disappointed sighs/looks and threats ("do you want to go home? If you're not gonna even try, we'll just go home!"). To a 7 year old  at PRACTICE. My blood pressure gets raised standing next to them, so I can't imagine the kid. One of the boys can no longer make any decisions on the field without looking at his Dad for approval. He's seven years old and his confidence is already that damaged. Parents need to keep perspective and be more self-aware about how their own hang ups are impacting their kids.

My DH and I have promised to help each other keep perspective as our kids get older and make sure our priorities are straight. It sounds like your DH's behavior had some impact here. And while you are certainly not to blame for his behavior, you do have a responsibility to ensure he is aware of it and knows it's taking a toll on your child. I really hope your kid can find a love for the game (or whatever makes him happy) again. With the right support, kids are amazingly resilient![/quote]

You just called me out.

I’m going to be better from now on [/quote]

A thin line between doing right or wrong 
Intentionally or not[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics