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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My retired MIL takes every opportunity to remind me of how she raised two successful sons without hardly any help from anyone including my FIL, worked full time, cooked everything from scratch and hosted regular parties for friends and relatives![/quote]

Maybe the most generous explanation is she's looking for sympathy for how difficult it was? I hope so.  Because deliberately raising sons in a home with a Dad not contributing to household management (and day to day parenting?) doesn't really seem all that  brag worthy to me. What was she teaching and modelling for her boys?[/quote]

Do you now know anyone who was married in the 70s?  The majority of a father's parenting was fairly limited to bedtime stories and special outings.[/quote]

Well I'm 70. So yes. My father was a physician who deliberately chose a specialty that allowed him to come home for lunch and and dinner every day while he and my mother were in the child raising stage of life.  Sure, he frequently was out in the middle of the night for emergencies, but he was there every evening sitting in his chair in the family room watching whatever the household of girls chose on tv.  Reading the books we read. An admiring audience for new clothes,  Always willing to take us on any sort of outing. Taught us as much sport as we'd allow.  In our adulthood, he had a much more high-powered job, but if any of his daughters called for help or advice, and he was in a meeting, he asked us to hang on a sec and cleared the room to give us his full attention.

He was raised by a similar father. No surprise, I married someone who prioritized family time.  Sure, it's amazing privilege to have the ability to prioritize family time over basic needs but this is a message board of privileged people for the most part.[/quote]

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