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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Find a therapist for her now. Even if she doesn't seem like she needs it, setup a few appointments so she has someone to talk to. Grief is hard and hits everyone differently.[/quote]

This. My father died when I was 11.  My mom tried making me go to therapy, but I refused.  On the outside, I appeared to handle his death well- I was high achieving, had many friends and never got into any trouble.  I managed this by suppressing my feelings and am now in therapy at 50 dealing with his death and the decades of repercussions of not handling it.

Please consider making your DD see a therapist whether she thinks she needs it or not.  And I would argue this is especially needed if she appears to handle his death well and move on quickly. [/quote]

I posted  about  my experience at 17:01. Therapy right away during this period of shock may or may not be useful. But in the long run it's a good tool for helping to recognize and accept grief and manage feelings and emotions. After all, if our kids were having a medical or dental crisis we wouldn't let them decide not to treat it. Helping them understand what they're going through is part of healing.

And PP, I hope you're doing better. It's never too late to deal with decades-old trauma.[/quote]

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