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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think it's about Old Money or social climbing explicitly.

I think it's about the wedding fantasy that gets sold to brides about the perfect shower and the perfect dress and the perfect flowers and the perfect cake. It's really easy to get caught up in the photo op cosplay of wedding, and within that fantasy, kids are either a prop or a major complication. The same people say they want to "enjoy being married for a while" before having kids. I think that very charitably speaking, they are attached to the party, and kids don't really fit into that vignette.

It's kind of the first of many ways that we socially shame women for making decisions about how to include children in their relational lives. People get defensive about their own choices. They get judgmental about other people's choices. They feel rejected and act out.[/quote]

Sure, and then the reality is that people nowadays may not want to have kids at all. It's an option, which was not on the table not too long ago. If you want to stay childless, why would you invite kids to your wedding? [/quote]

I think it would be a mistake to assume this correlation though. My brother and his wife don't have or want children. They invited my kids and our sister's kids to their wedding. They like kids. They just don't want any of their own. I actually DID have a child free wedding, because it was at night, at a bar. People who couldn't figure out a plan for their kids didn't come. It didn't change how I felt about them. I have 2 kids of my own, shockingly to your correlation.[/quote]

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