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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Since we're talking about this, I'll just go ahead and say that in my experience, adult-only weddings are only done in that narrow tranche of middle-class social climbers who think it somehow makes their event more "elegant" and "distinguished". The wealthy, particularly Old Money, couldn't care less about how they're perceived and just invite everyone at whatever family estate or large venue they want. And the working class also couldn't care less about how they're perceived, and invite everyone as well - it's just that the venues are much less costly. Maybe it's a community hall or a backyard, and that's perfectly lovely as well.

I really don't think adult-only weddings are the norm in the US. And they're certainly not the norm in most other countries, which have more inclusive family values.

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I was one of the PPs and was trying to make the same point. Once you have to rent a wedding venue instead of owning it, it becomes a matter of space and finances. if you own a large estate, you don't care who comes, and if you have it in your backyard, you also don't care. But if you have to rent a hotel/restaurant/do a destination... yes, it becomes a different animal. I'm multicultural and in some countries it's actually a fight to have FRIENDS invited as the elders consider the wedding a family affair. But things of course change as people marry later and pay for their own weddings.  [/quote]

This isn't the same point at all, the PP you're quoting is saying people don't invite kids because they want to look "elegant."

I agree with you though- people like the family castle poster can invite whoever they want, whereas I understand someone having a reception at a hotel ballroom may have different space and economic considerations.[/quote]

Ha ha, you're right. I also disagree that the "middle class" who rents are just going for "elegant". For example if they're renting a hotel ballroom, they want elegant, but they also have no other place to hold a wedding party. I mean if you're going to rent, you rather do elegant than run down. I think it's very common for young professionals who live in apartments in big cities to rent their wedding venues and I definitely wouldn't call them social climbers. [/quote]

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