Toggle navigation
Toggle navigation
Home
DCUM Forums
Nanny Forums
Events
About DCUM
Advertising
Search
Recent Topics
Hottest Topics
FAQs and Guidelines
Privacy Policy
Your current identity is: Anonymous
Login
Preview
Subject:
Forum Index
»
Family Relationships
Reply to "Genuinely don’t understand why people get worked up about weddings"
Subject:
Emoticons
More smilies
Text Color:
Default
Dark Red
Red
Orange
Brown
Yellow
Green
Olive
Cyan
Blue
Dark Blue
Violet
White
Black
Font:
Very Small
Small
Normal
Big
Giant
Close Marks
[quote=Anonymous]I don't think it's about Old Money or social climbing explicitly. I think it's about the wedding fantasy that gets sold to brides about the perfect shower and the perfect dress and the perfect flowers and the perfect cake. It's really easy to get caught up in the photo op cosplay of wedding, and within that fantasy, kids are either a prop or a major complication. The same people say they want to "enjoy being married for a while" before having kids. I think that very charitably speaking, they are attached to the party, and kids don't really fit into that vignette. It's kind of the first of many ways that we socially shame women for making decisions about how to include children in their relational lives. People get defensive about their own choices. They get judgmental about other people's choices. They feel rejected and act out.[/quote]
Options
Disable HTML in this message
Disable BB Code in this message
Disable smilies in this message
Review message
Search
Recent Topics
Hottest Topics
