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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here to clarify.

The unemployed alcoholic is my sister. She is 48 and hasnt worked since she was 26. She is a loser. Her life is a wreck. She's 300 pounds and lives in a condo my mother bought. It's stuffed to the rafters with trash. She watches TV and posts on the internet all day. That is her life.

My brother and I both put ourselves through college and have decent jobs and stable lives. We are 'normal'.

Giving 4.5 million dollars to our sister is the same as throwing it from the top of a skyscraper.[/quote]

So your sister is a hoarder, a shut-in, a compulsive eater, and an alcoholic.   What are the chances she has significant childhood trauma or a mental illness or both?

No one chooses to be a dysfunctional hoarder either no life…it sounds like she has built a prison of fat around her person and a prison of stuff around her home to protect herself and keep others out…have you ever been curious about why that is?  Do you have any curiosity about why your sister, raised in the same homes you, turned out so functionally different than you and your brother?

You seem to attribute her condition in life entirely to character defects.  Is that so?[/quote]

Not OP, but, yeah, character defects do exist and do wreck people's lives. Not every crappy person you encounter is a 'victim'. Some people just suck.

Have you seriously never known siblings to be wildly different in their success and failures? It doesn't mean one of them was getting raped as a child, for Christ's sake. I have a brother who dropped out of college, became a ski bum, rents a studio apartment and now washes windows for a living at 55. Nobody abused him. He's just unambitious and... lazy, to be blunt.[/quote]

PP is your brother happy with his life? Nothing in what you said about him is illegal or immoral. We are not all required to be ambitious. The world needs people who will wash windows; it’s a stable business. [/quote]

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