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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd say to start with an assessment of your disposable income (what you spend for fun discretionary things currently) and look for someone who can also spend in that same general ballpark. This will enable him to pay his own way if you're the type who insists on buying front-row seats to concerts or taking luxury level vacations, or things like flying business class. You don't want to have to subsidize someone unless you get to the point where you're fully committed. Look for things like how much he might be paying in child support or alimony, and whether he's on the hook for college expenses once his kids hit that age. Many divorced men in high income jobs don't control a significant part of their income and you need to go in with eyes wide open.

As for the assets, be open to men with really good pensions, like military officers who served 25+ years, or are on track to do so. These people get such a big paycheck every month that their spending money in retirement is probably on par with someone who saved $3M+ in their 401K. But unlike us professionals, they don't ever have to worry about the money running out if inflation hits or interest rates drop. [/quote]

Yes this is a way to go. I dated men who had different lifestyle eg were attending low cost gyms, low cost vacations, didn’t use cleaning ladies. They always had anxiety and would try to put me down for “being so spoilt” spending my own money the way I want. 
 Next step he moves with you and wants you to clean the house yourself . No thanks [/quote]

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