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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When you make food a scarcity, when you make it a forbidden fruit, then guess what: kids obsess over it and want more of it. It's like when you have to fast or can't have water you think about food and water until you can have some again. Maybe if you stopped obsessing over what people look like, if you stopped describing people as a size when they have other attributes such as heart, mind, and soul, then your daughter wouldn't have an eating problem. You get what you raise, OP.[/quote]

And some people are wired to want more even if it's not scarce. I am one; one of my kids is the same. We serve dessert at every meal. DS would eat nothing but sugar for every meal if allowed (and has, at his grandparents' house). I was the same at his age. And yes, I gained weight, but not as much as I might have because I had 2 hours of intense sports every day. DS doesn't have intense sports and we restrict him to a small dessert (2 cookies, a small candy bar, etc) after lunch and dinner. Actual dessert of his choosing - not fruit or whatever. So he literally eats 2 desserts a day which  is far more than I ever got as a kid. Plus whatever crap they give at school - one teachers gives out weekly sodas for winning grammar contests, etc.

He is luckily skinny and we never ever talk about weight, only the need to eat healthy things before having dessert, i.e. if you are hungry for dessert, you are hungry enough to eat the regular dinner first. I do wonder what he'll do when he is older.

My other kids did not inherit this trait. (My father has it too.) But they do sometimes imitate him as he is the oldest, so we have the same conversations.[/quote]

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