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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]https://www.fastcompany.com/91496750/new-second-shift-burning-out-both-parents

We are a dual working parent household and I so wish we had understood how awful it would be.

We both work in office, commute 30-60 min each way, and work 8-9 hour days. We thought this would be a reasonable setup, with one going in a little early and the other late to handle the morning and evening kid wrangling.

But it has just drained our entire life away. There is always a mess in the house (and now the yard, yay spring), weekends are errands, 7 piles of laundry, cleaning, yardwork.

We don’t make the kind of money we can outsource, like in the article above where they order out for dinner (I think us Millennials order the most takeout of any generation?).

We have no nearby family, no extra cash, and every moment is spoken for. And of course now apparently the good schools we slaved to afford to buy zoned for don’t matter because there won’t be any jobs for our kids.

Just a PSA to GenZ…[/quote]

Laundry is easy to tackle. Do a load daily.  Put it in when you wake up. Put it in the dryer before you leave. take it out when you get home and fold it.  One load is easy to take care of. [/quote]

Our HE washer takes 2 hrs and is tiny. House is tiny. Putting away anything is jumanji.  [b]I should have quit my job, moved to a cheaper and spacious far out house, spouse commute 1hr, and I SAH[/b][/quote]

This is exactly what we did. Spouse commutes 1 hr to DC every day from the boonies.  The house was a stretch in the beginning because we did not have much savings but after some time money eased and I could also outsource some things at home so I was not doing everything.

The thing is that this only works if your DH's culture, values and mindset values the SAH wife/mom and considers her vital for the family - and you as a mom and wife are not exploited or disrespected for not contributing a salary.  If you have equal say and you are financially secure and have trust in your partner and your family, only then you would want to take on the role of a SHAM.  Otherwise, which sane woman would jeopardize their own safety, self-respect, career aspirations and financial stability by becoming a SAHM? [/quote]

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