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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Doesn’t sound like your stbx is particularly reasonable, so my experience might be not at all applicable. I went back through several years of my ex’s travel and showed him how 50/50 wouldn’t be possible unless he cut back on travel. He ended up agreeing to 70/30 (we didnt get the courts involved).

On a day to day level, it’s pretty aggravating because he does have some last minute travel that I accommodate. On the plus side, he never seems to mind if I have unexpected travel (due to my parents’ poor health), so there’s that. [/quote]

So I have an unreasonable and oppositional ex, and the way I deal with similar scenarios is to avoid quantifying anything and just present a plan that I know he will like. If I presented him with documentation showing that 50-50 wasn’t feasible based on his past history of travel he would freak out and feel attacked. What I would do is something like this:

“Hey X, I was thinking that it would work best if I had kids from Mon-Fri and you get the weekend if you are in town. If you are not in town for the weekend then you can take them for dinner during the week. The you can also have priority to get 3 day weekends and extra vacation when you can plan it in advance.”

Show him what could work with his schedule instead of focusing on why something won’t work. [/quote]

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