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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Only cheating is betrayal, others are issues that can be communicated and resolved-may result in separation but still not the way cheating does.[/quote]

False. I didn’t want kids. My ex h forced it. We agreed no kids before marriage. That is a worse betrayal that cheating.

If someone completely undermine the grounds in which the relationship was set, that’s a betrayal. Another example would be geographic like somebody who move somewhere promising to move back and then they refuse to move. These are on par with cheating because it literally ruins your life. I would argue that it’s worse than cheating because if it’s just cheating, it doesn’t ruin other parts of your life in the same way you can just get a divorce and stay where you are or you can just get a divorce and you wanted kids anyway.[/quote]

How did he force you to have children? Did he sabotage your birth control? Did you not get sterilized? Did he adopt without you? Did he hire a surrogate? Did he rape you and then make you stay at home for 9 months so you couldn't get an abortion? Did he have a child with another woman?

Really, really tell me.
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I had just been in the hospital and was really sick. He was badgering me until I gave in despite me saying several times I don’t want to get pregnant. I was off the pill for only two days because I was really sick on antibiotics and could barely move. He knew exactly what he was doing. I was also geographically trapped for eight years and I couldn’t leave because I could not risk staying in that state because I would never be able to get out and my job was not in that state. He lied in my opinion just to get married. Once he had me literally trapped in a state that I didn’t want to be in then the truth came out. This is far worse than cheating ever could’ve been because it ruined my life and ruined me from having a chance with somebody else. A kid traps you dealing with them and the other parent with these bullshit 50-50 custody laws for their entire childhood. I would’ve taken cheating any day of the week over this.[/quote]

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