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Thank you, that’s helpful. They are in middle school but with no after care and no bus service. The way it works now is that I pick them up and take them to various activities or bring them home. If I were working, that obviously wouldn’t work and I would need an afternoon nanny/driver until my workday ends. [b]I think I need to negotiate the ongoing cost of a nanny/driver into our settlement[/b], particularly since I don’t think he has thought through how he would care for them on school days on his time. He usually wraps up the work day around 6ish but once in a while has the flexibility to finish his day around 2 or 3, so he imagines his schedule as very flexible. But I don’t think he realizes that he would need to sustain that on a daily basis for 5 days at a time. And he certainly hasn’t thought through summer and their morning sports practices or anything like that.

It’s tough because I think I’m going to be negotiating with his magical thinking based on an ideal non-travel day. He doesn’t have a grasp of the reality of daily caregiving.
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Depending on your state, work-related childcare costs might be included in the child support calculation.  [/quote]

We had a nanny since our child was born because my ex was an absentee parent, and I worked full-time in a high-paying job. When we divorced, the judge ordered him to pay half the nanny's cost in addition to child support (which was minimal).  This was largely based on our own precedent with having a nanny and his bad behavior during the divorce process.

While not working, he often took off at the last minute for random personal trips.  I had a ROFR when he skipped town, and my nanny was very accommodating, while my mom would often fly in to help.  It takes a village.

He had 50% custody on paper, but exercised maybe 10%.  Whatever.  He wouldn't have paid more child support anyway.  He was delinquent or in contempt on multiple issues in the parenting agreement.  Again, whatever.  I let it go and kept putting one foot in front of the other. [/quote]

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