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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find it really really weird when family cuts off other family. Invariably when I hear details, there are issues on both sides even if one person is more at fault.  I hear a lot of stories of defensive language like ‘they were toxic’ ‘I need boundaries’ etc [b]but the reality is that if the person wasn’t also contributing in some way, they wouldn’t need to be so strident and rigid[/b]. I have a family member who is likely mentally ill and has caused tons of drama, but are they cut off? No. I feel sorry for them, realize they are a highly imperfect person and I look for ways to connect that are not high conflict. If I engage with them and fight, what does that say about me? I know I can’t expect them to operate on the same emotional level as I do. And that’s ok.

They/we are connected to each other in various ways and ‘cutting them off’ would impact not only me but others. And to me, that’s selfish and unfair. [/quote]
Lol no.

Feel free to stay in contact with your toxic, abusive family members. The rest of us can choose peace. [/quote]

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