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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can't believe some of the knee-jerk private school defenders on this board. If you actually have a kid in private school, you will see some outrageous parental behavior alongside the wonderful parents. Why pretend there's no bad and only good?[/quote]

New poster.  I actually have had multiple children in local private schools for several years.  I've met some parents that I consider mildly annoying and many I truly enjoy.  But no, I've never seen outrageous behavior of the sort you seem to be describing here.

Now you'll probably accuse me of being a "knee-jerk defender" or tell me to "get my head out of my ass," simply because I don't agree with you.  I suppose that's your right.  But in my experience, this story you're trying to tell -- about how most private schools are snake pits of intrigue and backstabbing -- is fiction.

Maybe I've just been lucky enough to have missed it, or maybe what you're describing is standard procedure at some schools, but not at others.  In any event, your suggestion that such ugliness is commonplace among all private school parents at all schools is simply not true.[/quote]

You're talking to several posters here, not just one. You're responding to my post though. So let me say that I've only run into one truly socially unscrupulous  parent at our K-6 (the stories I could tell, but I won't) and a few parents I'm on the fence about. But it's enough to convince me that OP and the other posters here aren't imagining things. And this is why I think the posts (some of them yours?) accusing OP of being paranoid and/or incoherent just seems like mean girl behavior at worst, and ostrich-like behavior at best.

PS, your last para seems to contradict itself.[/quote]

Yes, I understand I'm probably talking to more than one poster.  You're the one who seems to suggest that any parent who doesn't see "outrageous behavior" must be a "knee-jerk defender."  I don't have any way to know in advance whether you're also the person who told someone she needs to "get her head out of her ass," just because that person had never seen such exclusion in private schools her children attended, but I gather you're saying that wasn't you.

To be clear, I'm not suggesting that there are no unscrupulous assholes among the private school parent population.  Apparently you've met one at your K-6 school.  I'm sure every school has at least one.  I'm also not suggesting OP is making things up.  My whole point in posting is to rebut the implication that private schools are chock-full of unscrupulous assholes, hell-bent on maintaining some warped social caste system.  That's what some people posting here seem to be suggesting, but that worldview is completely contrary to my personal experience.  Indeed, judging from the fact you've met only one such person at your child's school, I gather you and I might even agree on this point.

You seem to think I'm a repeat poster, but I am not.  This will be my second post on the thread.

If you think my last paragraph is self-contradictory, I apologize.  There must be some ambiguity I'm not seeing.  My point was to acknowledge that while I've personally never met an unscrupulous asshole at private school, and thus I think they're not common, I'm open to the possibility they exist.

I hope we can have a useful exchange on this, and not devolve into sniping.  Please help me reach that goal.[/quote]

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