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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s possible but you have to be comfortable mentally and financially with outsourcing a lot of your childcare.

Also I’d be really really aware of potential special needs. My oldest was diagnosed as being on the spectrum almost a year after my third was born, and now I think it’s possible my third child may ultimately be on the spectrum too. It’s been very hard for me to handle mentally and balance the normal logistics of three kids while carrying the load of one - and possibly two - kids with special needs.

I had a 100% remote work full time job which was the only thing making our life possible. But now it’s RTO or bust, and we’re figuring out if we can just make it work financially for me to quit (my commute is very long and I basically wouldn’t see my kids three days a week, which sounds crazy as I type it.)

You probably need to be comfortable with that though. Just recently, all three of my kids had strep. Now this week they all have to go back to the doctor, one has a specialist appointment, I have a job interview, and I’m working full time while my kids are off from school. Every week there are therapies, activities, tutors, events at school, at least one doctor or dentist appointment for someone (either planned or needed last minute), an IEP meeting, etc. frankly without a super nanny or very involved grandparents handling the day to day and some of your mental load, it would be very overwhelming.

And like I said, think hard about whether you can handle special needs. I did not heavily consider my own mental state enough in that scenario. [/quote]

Also - we have a full time babysitter and a bi weekly cleaner. Babysitter doesnt drive. They handle watching the kids at home during working hours, laundry for the kids, tidying the kids rooms and playroom, and basic meal prep for the kids (lunchboxes, washing bottles etc.) even with this, I am constantly overrun with logistics of managing schools, activities, therapies, tutors, social engagements, camps, packing for weekends away and vacations, meal planning and shopping, clothing planning, shopping, stocking and or hazing our pantry, storing/donating outgrown things, organizing cluttered closets and kids toys, making sure kids have packed backpacks, snacks, scheduling doctors appointments, bringing kids to doctors, managing prescriptions, daily homework/enrichment, after school activities, washing dishes and so on. You would really need to think hard about how the logistics would work. Maybe I need better help, but it just seems like there’s a lot of work to go around for everyone.

My husband is more focused on his job so everything related to the kids and household is basically between me and my babysitter. Maybe I need a more helpful spouse, but if you have a spouse working long hours, again, think very carefully about what help you can afford. Especially during the first year or two with a needy baby and then hazardous toddler at your feet.[/quote]

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