Reply to UVA professor: get married young

Forum Index » College and University Discussion

Reply to "UVA professor: get married young "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]I got married at 24 but didn't have kids until my 30s.  My parents were similar, they married at 21 but didn't have my brother until they were almost 30.

It can work out, but you have to be on the same page about a lot of things.  My spouse and I both heavily focused on our careers and school in our 20s, our son wasn't born until after my husband finished his PhD.  We very much supported each other through work, my husband did Bar Exam flashcards with me and I read through his thesis repeatedly.

But I have known people for whom it has gone very badly.  My husband's best friend supported his wife through her PhD and moved for her career and then it all went totally pear shaped right when she wss graduating.  Another friend worked at Starbucks to put her husband through law school with the idea that she would then get to do her master's when he was done, and then he left her and didn't live ip to his end of the deal.

Your early 20s can be a crucial time for making career decisions and setting up things.  It's possible to go back and do things later, but it can be a lot harder.

If you can find someone who mutually builds you up and helps you achieve goals, it's great.  If someone expects you to sacrifice yourself or give up everything for them, it's not a good idea.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics