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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A few beers a day? Over what amount of time?  Is he a big guy? Does he get drunk or do you just not like the consumption of alcohol? What kind of relationship do you have with him?

Some people can drink that much and be fine. I have an amazing friend who can drink a bottle of wine at dinner by herself and be totally fine. Her liver is incredible! If your BIL drinks around your kids but otherwise behaves, then that opens up good conversations for you to have with the kids. And you and your DH have to make a joint decision based on being parents, not based on his love for his brother or some idea of respect for his mother. [/quote]

If your friend drinks an entire bottle of wine at dinner (so, 90 minutes?) and she seems "fine" then she is an alcoholic. [/quote]

Right?? That doesn't mean her liver is "incredible" it means her liver enzymes are probably elevated to clear the alcohol faster, and her nervous system has adapted so that she can appear to have good motor skills, speech, etc despite high BAC.  It's not a good thing. It doesn't mean she has superpowers.  [/quote]

I agree with this.  However, "a few beers a night," which is OP's complaint about her BIL, is very different than that.  And I don't think she ever claimed he was an alcoholic, but I may have missed that.

And she never said he was inappropriate with her kids, just said she didn't want him around them.   Lots of people are filling in the blanks/projecting here.  [/quote]

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