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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What does excess drinking mean to you? A couple of beers or falling down drunk? That said, it’s your house. Good luck.[/quote]

A few beers a day, high functioning. I still don't want that around my kids.[/quote]

Sounds like you're using this as an excuse to stick it to your husband, BIL and MIL.[/quote]

This doesn't make sense because it's clear OP's dislike of her husband, BIL, and MIL is directly related to the totally dysfunctional behavior they are exhibiting in this incident. BIL has an ongoing and known drinking issue, MIL is trying to force OP to host him even though OP has already said no (it was a bit overreaching to even ask, but one no should suffice), and her husband is caving to pressure from his mom and brother instead of sticking up for his wife and kids. I don't even know these people and I dislike them on OP's behalf. None of that is acceptable.[/quote]

This is what the OP said:  "I hate her and my husband most days, So am I wrong?"

She hates them most of the time. Nothing specifically pertaining to BIL.

I'm not saying she's right or wrong, just that her judgment is clouded by her hatred of these people. Then when she added that BIL drinks a few beers a day, it is impossible to know based on that if he is or is not an alcoholic. And she mentioned nothing about how he behaves. She just doesn't like any of them and doesn't want BIL around.[/quote]

No adult should ask another adult to host anyone ever. I feel very strongly about this. If someone wants to host they will volunteer to do it.[/quote]

Fine. But OP isn't saying that. She is saying it's because BIL is an alcoholic. But things don't add up. I mean, I don't like people staying with me either. So I get that. But I also don't blame other's for my preference. And I might be overly sensitive to this since I have relatives who find ways to blame everyone else rather than own their decisions. [/quote]

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