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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Years ago, I did this to a boss. Everything was so new to me and it felt like my head was exploding with so much information. I felt so smart and assumed these things had to be new to people, especially those who didn't appear as confident as me. I shudder with embarrassment just remembering. I was young, naive, and thought my little bit of new information that made my world crack open in awe was old news to this particular boss.

The boss handled it with grace, but I was quickly moved to another position where I was in over my head and put through the paces by someone who was professional, but far less patient than that first boss.

I would do as the PP suggested, re: cut her off.[/quote]

Yes me too.  Many people have a "puppy" phase.  You learn from people cutting you off - if you have EQ.  This is what I call "corporate kabuki".  What irritates you may or may not bother other people.

Don't be rude, but it's generally harmless for older employees to rein in younger employees.

If you can't stand glossy yammering people getting ahead, re-read some Dilbert and face reality.[/quote]

I think the subtext could also be that OP is legitimately threatened by a younger woman acting in ways she does not permit herself to act. It would be pretty toxic to try to hurt a younger coworker for that reason, for what really is (at worst) a faux pas.

I have empathy for her because I have always worked in knowledge-intensive environments where learning an immense amount in a short time is required. Some people learn and process information by talking about it and by having conversations that may seem naive or presumptuous to others. But this is how they are getting their arms around the issue. And I have often also found that many people who have been around for longer than me or are above me actually have big gaps in their knowledge - because it is impossible to know everything in these fields and also sometimes because they have not kept up. Yes I have also had to learn how to keep these discussions to where they belong, but silencing and humiliating a young new female jr employee trying to learn seems like a frankly sh*t maneuver. [/quote]

Why would OP be threatened by a young coworker who lacks the self-awareness to realize she is explaining basic information to people with lots more experience?

I'm sure OP has gaps in her knowledge but she is unlikely to fill them by wasting time listening to someone who knows even less.

I work in an extremely "knowledge-intensive" job and this would drive me nuts because it's a waste of time. [/quote]

OP literally wrote that she is jealous and insecure. [/quote]

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