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[quote=Anonymous]I am truly sorry for OP kid. I understand and see this playing out at many achools. As parents, it is difficult for us to understand  the difficulties of college life today. Early relationships are formed via social media, and Competition starts from day one. If you are not prepared, you're a bit flat footed. My kid is at an Ivy. She got good advice before she started that she needs to set up coffee chats and mtgs with upper classmen-  to get yourself known for clubs, sorority, etc. Friendships and club membership is less organic today - all takes pre-planning and need to apply broadly and expect rejection. My kid is outgoing and knows a ton of people but also seeking good friends. It takes effort and that is the norm. The kids struggling are often social kids. Its a bit of a shock for some, and the struggles are social vs academic. My kid applied to 6-7 business clubs and got 1. Auditioned for 2 performing arts groups and got 1 (and my kid has talent). Sorority rush after winter break was a stressful mess and thankfully got a bid - at her 3rd choice. But my kid is generally happy and becoming more socially secure but it takes A LOT of work. Sorority life is very popular now and demand exceeds supply. She's has friends at schools like northwestern and vandy that did not get bids. And these girls feel more isolated at this moment bc friends in sororities will now have separate events. But your kid can still be proactive to make lunch/dinner/ coffee plans. Considering transfer is fine. Apply and see if u get options. Sometimes a fresh start helps. But if u do that, do the research beforehand of what you want to join, and set yourself up for success (network early). Also, some sororities have open spots after rush - your kid can check that out. It may not be the most popular group, but will likely be a place they can make a few good friends. I have a lot of empathy for our kids. I also went to an ivy and it was so different in my day. Wishing OP kid a better semester![/quote]

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