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[quote=Anonymous]I think it's fine that OP isn't identifying the school.  It's easier when you aren't worried about your child's privacy and, frankly, the experience of one student doesn't necessarily represent the experience of all students.

To the OP, I'm sorry your daughter is having a tough time.  Mine is at a T30 that sounds like it has a lot of the same obstacles.  Winter rush is brutal. I'm not being dramatic when I say that. My daughter did end up in a house, but not where she originally expected/hoped. TBH, I think there is some good in that b/c they party WAY more than my kid.  If you daughter dropped herself, she can consider COB in the fall. Did she opt out b/c it wasn't going the way she hoped or did she not get a bid at the end of rush?

The professional frats are annoying, IMO. My daughter also tried to join one in the fall, but they really don't take a lot of freshman and I suggested revisiting sophomore year when she knows more people. My kid rarely faced rejection before college, so some of that stung more than she expected.  But, there is resiliency to be learned from it.  If your kid is at a T30, they did very well in HS and probably didn't face a lot of rejection or experience a lot of failure un until now.  We don't want our kids to be miserable, but we do want them prepared for the real world.

If it were my kid, I'd encourage to keep going to the non-competitive clubs and try to coordinate study groups with kids in their classes.  Mine is in a group of kids for her major and they meet weekly.

I'd also be OK with filling out the transfer applications.  If she gets in somewhere, that doesn't mean she has to leave.  By the time the decision needs to be made, she may have found her footing.

I don't know if she's in the N or the S, but this winter has been challenging.  My kid sailed through first semester with great grades, made so many friends and had a great time.  She's still happy at her school, but this semester is requiring more thought about how she spends her time and approaches college life.  Sometimes it's going to be harder.  I guess the question is if the good outweighs the bad or if it's the other way around.[/quote]

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