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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH needs to say this: “mom, Joey doesn’t want you included in any of his graduation activities. This is why you won’t be receiving any invitations or notices in May.”

Alternatively, if the grandson is 18 years old, then he should be the one who notifies his grandmother that he doesn’t want her at his party or graduation, if she brings it up.

Both men need to reach down and find their stones. Anything less than telling grandma straight up that she’s not included is cowardly.

Anyone who makes these drastic choices to cut off their closest relatives needs to have the courage to face the sometimes unpleasant consequences. This will be a good “choices have consequences, buddy” moment for your DS. Make him own it [/quote]

This is awful advice. Does this PP leave a trail of scorched earth behind them all the time? 
The kid is 18 and in high school. He absolutely does not need to have this conversation with his grandmother. Possibly ever.

No one is owed a graduation ticket. It would be a bit of grace to say “we don’t get enough tickets for you but we’d love to celebrate a different day by going out to a special lunch together.”

I’d rather teach my kids to manage relationships with low drama and kindness. It’s not cowardly. PP is aggressive with little, if any, upside for the family.

Do what serves you. Manage her to the role you want her. Don’t include her where it will cause stress, especially on a special day where all joy and focus should be on the graduate. [/quote]

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