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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just be as prepared as you can be for the disaster.  Research some rehab options in advance so you know where to call when you need it.  But basically you're in a holding pattern until the status quo changes.  Trying to change things will just be a frustrating waste of energy.  We've been through it with my ILs and are starting to go through it with my parents.  It helps to remember they're still adults and can make their own decisions even if you think they are making the wrong decision.  [/quote]

In case of a disaster the hospital will identify open rehab beds. I’d learn to manage own stress around it since we can’t control these types of parents. It’s hard. [/quote] ppl

+1.  My sibling and I have completely let go of any idea that we can help our parents.  For example, this week Mom went outside and tried to climb an ice pile and fell (she didn't need to do this, she was puttering outside).  We just said, "glad you're ok, remember none of us can walk on the ice."  In the past we would have twisted ourselves into a pretzel trying to help her accomplish her non-serious outdoor chore, and no help would have been accepted. For now we just ignore it until we can't anymore, because she's competent to make her own decisions, even if we think they are bad ones.  It's VERY hard to get to this point but there's nothing else you can do so you have to try and save your energy for the big disaster that's coming.[/quote]

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