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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I met a guy on Instagram and we went on two dates. On the second date he asked about my work. I said I’m taking a break for now, which is true. Later it came out that I’m financially independent due to family money / a trust fund.
His tone immediately changed. He made snide comments like “must be nice not to have to work” and implied I must have an easy or unmotivated life. It didn’t feel playful — it felt judgmental.
After the date he continued calling and texting me, but I felt uncomfortable enough that I ended up ghosting and blocking him.
[b]I’m not flashy, I live a normal life,[/b] and I’m not opposed to working in the future. I just didn’t expect this reaction from this guy who is quite successful himself.
So I’m genuinely curious — is being a “trust fund baby” a turn-off when dating? Or did I just meet the wrong guy? What do men really think of women like me?[/quote]

This is what’s your not understanding, OP. Almost nobody I know can afford to step out of the workforce. Those who can have high-earning spouses or family money. Just sitting out of the working world as an unmarried young(?) adult is astoundingly flashy.

His behavior was out of line, but he was probably triggered. Just projecting, but I would guess that he has college loans or low-earning parents and likely experiences some form of financial stress. You were right to break up with him, not because he experiences financial stress, but because he couldn’t handle the wealth disparity.

In the future, you need to wait to mention the trust fund until you are engaged. If people can tell that you have a trust funds from your life style, you’re not living the quiet life you think you are.   [/quote]

What part was out of line? Stating what most people think? Yes, it must be nice not to work. Not having to work and not worry financially makes an easy life. [/quote]

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