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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can well believe that elementary schoolers might open drawers and rifle through them out of boredom, if they feel they're in a safe place with people they love.

[b]But it doesn't sound like your kids would have any reason to steal... especially given the fact that nothing has ever been stolen from your house, where they actually live![/b]

I'd be more inclined to believe that the grandparents misplaced the money themselves, or forgot they already spent it, or got it stolen by a housekeeper.

I'm sorry this is creating such unspoken bad blood between generations. I think you kid needs to apologize for opening the drawers, and you all need to reiterate to the grandparents that you have not found the money and that the children continue to deny they took it. Beyond that, you can't do anything else.

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An elementary schooler doesn't steal because he can't afford a crust of bread, he steals because he has poor impulse control and it's a boundary to test.  The one who "opened some drawers just to see" stole the money.  As to your 2nd point, OP has no idea if her kids steal from her because she doesn't know what's in their rooms and has an "everything in the house belongs to them anyway" attitude (see: "my kids are rich").[/quote]

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Someone was nosy and made a bad decision in a split second. I would be having a very clear convo about boundaries and require an apology to the grandparents for snooping where they shouldn’t. Whether or not they address the cash, they need to be held accountable for the part to which they have admitted.

And to poster who suggested letting them know you will be checking video security footage,  this is exactly how we caught our seasonal caretaker using our home when we were away. We got a notice of unusual energy use from the electric company. I asked him if anyone had been there that he noticed. He said no. So I told him we would check the remote video feed and get back to him if we needed his help identifying a suspect. He copped to using the house immediately. People just aren’t that bright. [/quote]

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