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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would say private school kids generally are nicer because:

1. There is an admissions filter for incoming students that rejects extremely bad behavior, 
2. Their parents can devote significant resources to their children's educations, and
3. Social skills can be placed on the back burner when parents struggle to meet basic needs like food, shelter, and adequate childcare.

Every group has hierarchies and subgroups... Of course bullying can be ruthless in any group...

But in general, it's easier to be a decent human being when the most violent kids can't sit next to you in class, your family is investing money into your upbringing, and you're not hungry all the time.

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You're not understanding OP's question.  She said there are a bunch of bad behaved kids at her DD's public.  So, she is considering going private to get away from that kind of behavior.  But with private, she is worried that the kids will exhibit a DIFFERENT kind of behavior INSTEAD: meanness and entitlement.  In other words, she is assuming better classroom behavior at the private, but she wants to know if her concerns about meaness are valid.   Will she just trade one for the other?  Obviously we can't answer that because it depends on the two schools she is comparing.  So, ridiculous thread.  [/quote]

Thank you for understanding my dilemma. In public, it seems relatively easy to just avoid the poorly behaved kids. Current friend groups is great. I’m afraid my super sweet girl will learn or be the target of mean girl behavior. [/quote]

I think that it is entirely possible you'll see meanness and entitlement at a private.  I taught in public and private and experience the same kind of really aggressive and physical behaviors  in both.  The only difference is that in private, kids like that are removed after a few months or a year.  In public, you are stuck with them forever.  But, the amount of entitlement in some kids is just astounding.  [/quote]

I had the opposite experience. Private will not remove mean, aggressive kids if they are the kids of donors. And if it’s a small private, you may have zero way to separate this kid from the ones s/he is bullying. In a public with 4 classes of each grade, you can avoid and ask for separation from the bully especially if there is a documented case of aggression. [/quote]

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