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[quote=Anonymous]Even assuming a man could find a steady supply of 25 year olds to have sex with his entire life, he will in fact desire emotional intimacy at some point. They may be ill prepared to actually engage in reciprocal emotional intimacy, but they do crave it.

I do think one of the biggest tricks nature plays on men is not sufficiently investing them into their kids. You can create a close father-child bond with effort, but men don't get as much help from hormones as women do. Maternal hormones are SO pleasurable. Men also get this, I know (my DH and I talk about it all the time) but I don't think it happens as easily with men because they don't physically carry the child or give birth, and they don't breastfeed. My DH felt intense paternal love when our child was an infant, but it didn't seem to carry him through the tough toddler years as well, and then it kind of re-emerged when our kid was 6 or so and could carry on a real conversation and started to have interests DH could identify with. Whereas even though I found the toddler years hard, I always felt very emotionally bonded to my child, and could empathize more easily and it only deepened our bond during those years.

I think a lot of men become alienated from their kids when they are young, and thus don't experience that deep pleasure of parental love, and as a result go looking for sex with younger women in order to feel pleasure. In some cases, not to get too psychoanalytical here, I think these men are almost trying to recreate a father-daughter relationship with these young women, and get the adoration and affection from them that they don't feel they get from their kids. It's screwed up, and if men had more hormones associated with fatherhood, I think it would be less likely to happen and we'd have more lasting, happy families, instead of this splitting that sometimes happens where the woman because focused on the children and the man feels neglected and starts to focus only on himself.[/quote]

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