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[quote=Anonymous]Op, I have a difficult child with ADHD so I say this with a lot of empathy—your child is clearly doing something that is annoying to other kids, and that’s why they don’t have friends. If this has now happened at two schools, your child is the problem and you need to focus on that and not the school situation.

My oldest DC is now in 6th grade at a small private school, and had few friends until last year/this year. DC has ADHD and their impulsivity made them annoying to other kids. We spent years supporting DC to take a social skills class, do individual therapy, I did parenting classes, and DC is medicated.

I love (love, love, love) my child, and I see their many strengths, and love their enthusiasm for life, but could also see how their behavior could be annoying. It was annoying to me, and to their siblings. I could see how kids who have a choice of who to play with would choose to not play with my kid.

We also thought about leaving the school, switching to another, larger private, moving to public, but in the end we realized that the problems my DC had would follow them everywhere unless we supported them to built better socialization skills.

It has paid off, and DC finally has multiple friends and regular friend groups to hang out with. It has been helpful that their school expands size in middle school so DC has new kids that where they got to make a “fresh start”, so I think switching schools can be a part of the solution, but only if your child has worked on their behaviors. [/quote]

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