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I think it's a man for sure, but likely he used AI to compose because of the formatting. Also would be in keeping with the "I'm being EFFICIENT and GOAL-ORIENTED" vibe of the post.

I think the funniest thing about it is that it's clear he has not actually done almost ANY real research into elementary school -- either actual schools in DC or even just generally what it's like to raise an elementary kid these days and the issues that come up. Like no mention of screens, EdTech, or technology use in the school or within the school community. As a parent of a 3rd grader, this is rapidly becoming one of the most critical education issues we have because it touches on everything -- academics, mental health, social issues, etc.

Also they seem to be missing that a lot of what they are worried about are things that they, as the parent, are going to have to stay on top of all the time. There is no school in DC (public or private) that can ensure your kid has perseverance or a desire to learn, especially if certain parenting is not going on (no school is going to be able to overcome a parent who lets their kid watch YouTube videos and play video games all the time, for instance). And actually good parenting can overcome a sub-standard school where a lot of kids don't have perseverance or a desire to learn -- we muscled our way through four years at a school with a lot of apathetic kids and parents by just never giving up on our kid, and then were able to get into a better situation where the school isn't actively working against our goals. But at the end of the day, this stuff is on the parents. Sure, at the ECE level, a really nurturing teacher is so valuable, because kids are so impressionable. But you will find that at the vast majority of schools in DC for ECE. Even our school with the very apathetic parent community had great ECE teachers who were incredibly caring and cultivated perseverance, curiosity, etc. But if the parents aren't doing this at home, it won't matter.[/quote]

OP here. Setting aside the concerning number of sexist remarks in this thread...

I specified in my post that I looked at a lot of other school characteristics already, and I see no need to ask for information I've been able to glean from other sources (like the EdTech/screens post someone else already made on this forum, or similar electronics-focused information I got from analyzing DCPS's publicly available budget datasets). That would be a waste of your time and mine. I shouldn't need to give you an exhaustive list of all the things I've considered, all the sources I've read, and all the publicly available data I've crunched for you to consider my questions in earnest. I sincerely hope you're just having a bad day, because it would be deeply discouraging to discover that you regularly treat others with so much contempt.

And obviously quality parenting and level of parent involvement can heavily affect the things I've asked about. Yes, crap parenting can undermine the efforts of the best, most nurturing schools. Yes, great parenting can mitigate the negative effects of crappy schools. Obviously these are things that a good parent should stay on top of all the time, both by actively working to reinforce these qualities at home AND by limiting kids' early exposure to people and environments that discourage these qualities. That's a given. So much so that I didn't think I needed to elaborate on it in my main post. It's also irrelevant to the questions I've asked. I asked for parents' insights on specific topics that aren't otherwise covered meaningfully on DCUM forums, school-specific websites, DCPS websites, or publicly available datasets.

Truly, good on you for "muscling your way" through 4 years at a school that didn't serve your kids the way you hoped. That's not an easy feat. And good on you for not giving up on your kid; that sounds like the mark of a great parent. Please respect that I'm trying to be a good parent to my kid, too. Don't make a bunch of baseless assumptions about who I am, what I know, or how much work I've put into parenting or research. I'm asking for this information to lower the likelihood that my husband and I will have to "muscle through" like you did. I'm asking about these specific qualities, in part, to lower the likelihood that my kid will have to go through the same kinds of demoralizing experiences that I did in elementary school. Being a good parent is hard enough already....I don't want to make it harder by putting my kid in a school whose influence we'll have to "overcome," so I'll do the extra info gathering up-front if it improves our chances.

What [i]would[/i] be helpful is if you could share more specifics about the school you had to muscle through. Was it a NW DC elementary school? If so, can you share some of your experiences and the name of the school? [/quote]

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