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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My oldest is only 15, and a boy, but if/when he gets married, I work contribute whatever they need if the bride’s parents aren’t paying or we’d do rehearsal/honeymoon. DH and I were able to fund our $100k wedding 20 years ago, and I’d want something at least as nice for them. [/quote]

You expect the women’s family to pay?!  Why? Because it’s tradition?  It’s only tradition because historically women didn’t work or receive an education.  Now that’s not the case.  Don’t continue your sexist way of thinking when the world has changed.[/quote]

Yeah, team boy mom.

When the bride is willing to relinquish all or half of the decision making to the groom and future mother in law, then your post would make sense.

But weddings are planned almost 100% by the bride, even today, down to the shoes the groom wears, and approval of or guidelines for the dress that the mother in law wears.

A wedding is one of those things where the old adage of if you are going to expect money from someone, then get ready to earn the money in the form of their (often unwelcome) opinions

Unless a bride is willing to let the groom's side be involved in decision-making and planning, then weddings should continue to follow the traditional route of the bride's side paying for it.[/quote]

I don’t disagree but this goes both ways. Ironically my FIL worth big big $ refused to contribute anything (my parents are working class) but sent a note to his / now our entire extended family that he couldn’t wait for our big wedding.

We eloped and that was that. If you aren’t contributing don’t expect any say and don’t complain if the couple can’t afford whatever you had in mind. [/quote]

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