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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Has anyone been in this position?

My daughter decided to rush and things have not gone well. She is either going to end up a lowest tier house or no house at all.  
She is a lovely, fun girl with a great circle of deep high school friendships and actually had a great time in the rush activities (loved meeting the girls, thought she was having great connections) but things did not go her way.  I think she hitched her star to several houses where older girls from her high school are and then didn't match with them and then fell down in the rankings.  Or whatever.  I'm not sure. We are not a sorority household.

[b]The upshot is that she's pretty devastated and feeling like every friend she made this past fall (which she was feeling shaky about to begin with) will move on without her as they all are doing better in the rush process. Over winter break she had been casually mentioning wanting to transfer due to the social scene[/b] and I assume this will bring up that conversation again. I support her in whatever decision she makes.

If this happened to your daughter (sorority rush did not go well AT ALL), what ended up happening?
Please be kind. I think my child had a very healthy perspective on things but it does feel to her that everyone she knows (her roommate, her hall mates, her other friends) will be joining greek life while she will not and it feels really isolating.  [b]She doesn't care about Greek life but just deeply wants friends and a community.  [/b]

Thank you![/quote]

Depends upon the school, but in this case transferring might be a good option to consider.[/quote]

Your best shot at pledging is first opportunity available, i.e., freshman year. Transferring and expecting to land in a top tier house is a fool's errand. Also, transferring because you think the only way to find a community is through Greek Life is silly.

OP - I would encourage her to continue through the process, if only to see what the remaining days of recruitment bring. If she REALLY doesn't like her option(s) at the end, have her drop, but I think there is something to be said to continue throughout the process to see what it's about. I was dirty rushed, SO mad that I was dropped by my "top" house, but ended up in a house with 200 other young women and made lifelong friends.

If her friends pledge "the top houses", she should remain friendly and supportive and get involved in something second semester. That will set her up really well for the COB process that will occur in the spring and also allow her to meet other people - affiliated or not.

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