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[quote=Anonymous]If your husband is saving "his" money what is he saving it for? 
From what I am understanding of your arrangement it seems it will not be for "your" future (as in the two of you) by this I mean retirement, old age, college for the kids, traveling, emergencies, etc. it seems you would still be expected to contribute your share forever. 
Does your husband spend some of "his" money on himself in stuff that does not include you? Is he generous with the kids and gifts? What about lifestyle? Do you both live according to your means or his? and this is why you are having trouble keeping up? 
What have you done in the past regarding out of the ordinary expenses (big ones) or even luxuries when he can pay them but you can't? For example if you go on vacation how do you pay? It seems you can barely cover routine expenses so is a vacation out of the question because then he would need to pay for it?
I am trying to understand how you have made it to 25 years of marriage with this arrangement and not have to deal with this before. It seems like the sort of issue that would affect everyday life in weird ways, but you seem to have a way of making it work.
My other big question is: you have been married for 25 years so you must have at least an inkling of how you husband feels about this, but again sometimes things just become the status quo until someone brings them to the table for discussion. Maybe he thinks it is a matter of pride for you to pay for 50% of expenses and he doesn't want to hurt your feelings.
I know every marriage is different and we should do whatever works for you, but to me this is just complicated.
Good luck!
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