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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think I know the answer here and I just need to get over my unease, but my 14 year old daughter has been having heavy periods and bad cramps for over a year and her doctor has recommended we put her on the birth control pill. This seems like the right medical answer, but it took me aback for a minute when they said we needed to have her come in and take a pregnancy test first, which is standard protocol, before the give us the prescription. She is in 8th grade and hasn't kissed anyone yet, I know this isn't being prescribed because of her having sex but somehow it just seems very young. Has anyone else put a daughter this young on the pill?[/quote]

Way back in the 80s I pleaded with my mom to let me go on BC pills at age 14 after I read in Teen magazine that it could help with painful and heavy periods.

It wasn’t until years later that a different GYN told me I had a tipped uterus which caused dysmenorrhea. My periods were so heavy I became anemic every month and would sometimes soak through a large pad in a short period of time, leading to more than one embarrassing leakage/staining incident in school. I couldn’t do my paper route on my bike because it was so bad and my mother would get pissed when I asked her to drive me on the route on the couple of days it was so heavy.

The worst two things about that experience is that both my mother and her old white guy GYN insinuated I was a slut for wanting to go on the pill, and the old white guy GYN molested me so that really sucked as well. I remember thinking it was the most awful and disgusting kind of physical exam and I felt sick and ashamed about how he touched me; it wasn’t until I saw another GYN at planned parenthood years later and then yearly for many years after that I realized I’d been sexually assaulted by the old creepy doctor because no other GYN exam I ever had the rest of my life was like the one he gave me. I’m still disgusted and angry to think about it today.

So my advice is be very accepting and supporting of your daughter, and if the GYN you’re taking her to is a man don’t leave the exam room unless he has a nurse present to observe. Now that I’ve lived decades more and been a prosecutor, I understand fully that some creepy doctors count on those early exams with teenaged patients to get their sick thrills - because the patients don’t  know better and are usually too confused to say anything.

And please get your daughter a copy of Our Bodies, Ourselves.[/quote]

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